Positive People For A Positive Life
As you age and mature you quickly start realizing all the things your parents said when you were growing up were true. Time after time I have found myself saying, “I should have listened to Mom,” or “damn it, Dad was right.” I remember an instance where my parents tried to instill in me the life lesson of surrounding myself with positive people. People who were doing well in their lives and not trying to break other people down. Being the genius I was, I ignored their advice and ultimately came to the same conclusion myself.
It is important to surround yourself with positive people. Even if you do not realize it initially, people’s moods, attitudes, and demeanors are contagious. Have you ever found yourself acting differently with one friend than you do your other friends? This can be because you are unconsciously picking up their cues and acting, behaving, and thinking like they are. This is human nature and you can use it to your advantage.
Start surrounding yourself with positive people. A quick and easy step everyone can take is finding someone at work that has a positive attitude and who acknowledges the positives of their job. Most people do not enjoy going to work everyday, hence the reason they have to pay you to do it. Positive people will focus on the pros like job security, personal and professional development, or simply the paychecks. After you spend more time with these people at work you will quickly find you dread the morning alarm clock less.
Think Big, Achieve Success
If you’re looking to achieve college success, it is also important to surround yourself with people who dream big and aspire to do great things. I see this often with people dreaming of starting their own business or becoming a professional athlete. These people are so focused that they do not have time to be negative. Negativity will only slow them down and ultimately prevent them from making their dreams come true. I once had the privilege of attending one of eight-time Olympic medalist Apolo Ohno’s speeches where he discussed his focus on skating. Since he was 14 years old he was so determined to be the best and stay positive that he never doubted he would win a gold medal. He has maintained that mindset even after hanging up his skates.
We live in an age when anyone can post his or her thoughts online for the world to read. I know that by scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed that many people are not in a good space. They make negative posts without realizing they are negatively effecting their friends’ moods. If they were to have replaced that post with a video of a puppy stuck in a box, it would have put a smile on everyone’s face and improved everyone’s day. Do yourself a favor and quickly unfollow friends who consistently send negative juju through the internet. Your life will be better for it.
Bring It To The Gym And Life
I have to recommend finding a workout partner who has a positive attitude. By doing this you can feed off of each other and stay motivated and focused on your goals. It is one thing to be realistic and say, “I need to trim up a little and lose this belly fat.” That is not negative, that is being realistic and truthfully assessing yourself so you can make self-improvement. Saying, “I’m too fat and this is all a waste of time. I would rather be home eating Little Debbies instead of sweating in this shit hole,” is negative. Imagine yourself on a treadmill next to that person. Would their attitude push you to increase the intensity and push harder towards your goals? Most likely not.
I have found one of the worst situations you can be in is dating someone with a poor attitude. Being in a relationship means spending a lot of time with that person and sharing your unfiltered thoughts and emotions. Someone who is comfortable expressing their negative opinions to acquaintances can only be a nightmare behind closed doors where they can say what they really feel. If you find yourself in this situation, as I have, it becomes apparent quickly that you need to find the exit. No matter how strong you fight and how positive you try to stay, eventually that person’s negativity is like Mike Tyson’s uppercut. It finds you, and it knocks you on your ass.
If you have found that friends have become removed from you, maybe you should take a step back and ask yourself if you are that negative person everyone should is distancing themselves from. If you do not find anyone to be too negative maybe that means you are more negative than everyone else, and that is worrisome.
Prady Tewarie has already written quite a bit on adjusting ones lifestyle, attitude, and approach towards training and college life in general. Adjustments might not be as hard as you think!
Putting It All Together
In conclusion, if you want to succeed in the gym, at work, and in life, you need to drop the negativity. Follow these steps and I promise you will find your life to be continually improving.
- Turn down your negativity. Stop using words like “hate.” You do not really “hate” Justin Beiber, you just dislike his bratty antics.
- Surround yourself with positive people at work who help you acknowledge the pros of having a job.
- Unfollow friends on social media who negatively effect your day with their posts.
- Surround yourself with people who think, and dream, big.
- Find a workout partner whose natural demeanor motivates you to be better and achieve your goals.